A Lovely Lady After Great Loss
(Clearwater, Florida, USA)
I had lost just about everything: my wife, my home, my possessions. Because my spouse had managed our move so that she could go back to school, everything was in her name, and one day, her attitude completely changed. I was shocked when she announced that she wanted a divorce, because things were going so well. And this was someone I had trusted with the rest of my life! So I was left in a rental car with as many of my possessions as I could fit in the trunk, and I wasn't sure where I was going to go. My fortieth birthday was coming up, and I had little left.
I found myself at my sister's house several states away, and I made every effort I could to pick up the pieces. I was determined not to let the devastating situation get to me, that I wouldn't become the kind of person who let betrayal eat at me. I had to be the person who could be loved again. Honestly, it was merely a practical matter. To give in to misery in my situation would be like suicide.
I set up a Facebook account using my sister's computer, delighted that I could find old friends I hadn't spoken to for a decade or more, and happy to showcase my positive attitude toward relationships. I knew that I needed to be a person who could love in order to find love. And I did.
Someone followed an old college pal of mine onto my page, a woman just about my age who had been through similar things. She declared that we were very similar when it comes to attitude. Miracle of miracles, we fell in love. It worked!
I've spent years with her now, and I have no reason to doubt that we're working toward a happy old age together. I'm glad that, in the middle of terrible turmoil, I had the presence of mind to stand firm in keeping a good attitude.