If you are not happy but can't figure out why, it may be because one or more of these 6 reasons. After all, it's much easier to cure a problem when you have an understanding of some of its causes and symptoms.
"Don't worry be happy".
We've all heard that. It's good advice and easy to say. Unfortunately, for many of us it can be a difficult request to follow. Stress, anxiety...
We try so many ways to find happiness and still it escapes us. This may sound dark, but don't let it get you down.
Why are some people happy DESPITE being in what may seem like BAD conditions to most of us? And why are other people UNhappy, even though they seem to have every advantage in life?
When you take the time to really think how these two sets of people approach life, the answer to this happiness question becomes pretty clear.
You can CHOOSE to become the master of your emotions, you can make smart lifestyle and social choices that will almost ensure that you find yourself happy at the end of the the day. No matter what you face.
Or, you can CHOOSE to do the exact opposite.
"We choose our joys and sorrows long before we experience them."
- Kahlil Gibran
Consider why you are not happy. (If that's the case, of course.)
Ok, it’s possible you may have some unique issue that's wrecking your sense of well being.
But I guess you will be much more likely to find the ROOT of your unhappiness in the 6 reasons that follow. These are the things that drag the vast majority of us down, so take a minute to know your enemy...
The world can be roughly split between worriers and warriors. Those who over-worry are much unhappier. Being a "warrior", in this sense, has nothing to do with things like violence or the military. It's all about having the courage to face what life has to offer.
How much time a day do you spend worrying? Don't you think there are much better ways to spend your time?
There are times in life when people do things to us that are downright nasty. It's a fact which we can't escape. What we can escape, however, is how we respond to these situations.
By holding a grudge you release a sort of slow poison in YOUR own system that's guaranteed to slowly kill your happiness. Not only does this NOT effect the person who did you wrong, but it actually damages YOU on top of whatever wrong you initially experienced (real or imagined).
“Not forgiving is like drinking rat poison and then waiting for the rat to die.”
Forgiving and forgetting is what you should do. It keeps you happy.
Happiness is NOT about what you "have" compared to others, despite what the overwhelmingly materialistic bias of our culture may tell you. If your neighbor has the latest TV, you buying the same TV the next day won't ever make you truly happy.
Happiness is based on internal factors more than not, and if you play the comparison game, you will never be happy.
Loneliness is a terrible feeling. Things seem much worse and problems much more daunting when you consider and face them alone. If you have the tendency to isolate yourself, this could be a huge part of why you feel unhappy.
Humans are social creatures. We need to be around others who we care about and who care about us to be happy.
Negative people spread unhappiness like a virus. If you look at your inner circle and it has more than its share of those who never have a good word to say, it's time to make a big change. Not only is their outlook hurting their own chance of happiness, but it's hurting yours, too.
Poor diet and lack of exercise creates the perfect environment for unhappiness to take root. Your body is your temple, and if it's treated like a garbage can, it's no wonder that happiness will escape you.
Have you ever noticed how much more pleasant and joyful fit people tend to be?
The 6 reasons above should be enough to give you an idea which area (or areas) may be causing you the most difficulty. Understanding the problem is the first step to overcoming it.