Before you can really love anyone else, you need to learn to love yourself. It's the first step towards experiencing true happiness.
You can't overemphasize the importance of loving that person looking back at you in the mirror. Think of loving yourself as the oil that allows the internal machine of your happiness to run smoothly and efficiently. It's that vital.
Self-image issues can be hard to overcome if you don’t know the tried and proven techniques that experts have developed to build self-esteem.
Put the following SIMPLE tips into action and you may be surprised at how quickly you learn to love yourself (if that’s hard for you, of course).
They have worked their magic with other people, so why wouldn't they work for you?
You can often be your own worst critic, while in reality, if you'd like to be happier, you should be your very own biggest fan! Stop ignoring your accomplishments, whether at work, your social life, athletics or beyond. You should even be patting yourself on the back for caring enough about yourself to be reading this now. Give yourself credit. You deserve it.
Ask models or other people who have taken part in beauty contests if they feel like they are beautiful, and many of them will tell you a firm "no". This is regardless of them becoming famous (and probably wealthy) over the fact that others find them attractive.
This strange paradox is repeated all over again. If you look in the mirror and find yourself thinking that you are not attractive at all, remind yourself that many others would disagree with you. You ARE beautiful, just the way you are.
It’s completely normal that we make mistakes sometimes. If your loved ones make mistakes, are you harsh with them? You shouldn't be. And when you are learning to love yourself you shouldn't be harsh with yourself, either.
Patience is a virtue. Being more patient with yourself will relieve a huge amount of stress and pressure.
You may be picking up on the idea that treating yourself better is a path to learning how to love yourself. And it’s true. Not only consciously, but on a subconscious level.
When you’ve raised your sense of self-worth in your subconscious mind, things really start falling into place.
Do you ever do anything nice for yourself?
Maybe you enjoy going to a movie, restaurant, or spa with your friends. Or maybe you enjoy seeing your favorite rock band playing LIVE. Or picking up a little extra something to help you with that hobby you love.
If you don't do this often, you need to start doing it asap. Pick one or two nights a month and do something really nice for yourself, something you find relaxing and enjoyable. You deserve this type of treatment, and it helps you learn to love yourself even more.
These are simple suggestions, but they work. Positive self-change doesn’t have to be complicated. Loving yourself and happiness come hand in hand, so give these tips a try. I'm sure you’ll feel better every day than the last.