Don't Ignore Your True Feelings!
I thought my life was completely planned out. I had graduated college. Had a great job. Was engaged to my "high school sweetheart". Everything seemed to be falling into place. I should have been happy and content-but I wasn't. I had started dating my "fiance" in high school. During that time I cheated on him twice, quite the red flag. We went off to college together, and truth be known, I probably wouldn't have gone if it hadn't been for him. However, the longer we were together, the more different we became. I wanted kids, he didn't. I wanted to live close to my parents, he wanted to travel. His job took top priority, my family did. I was having my doubts, but the relationship was safe. He came from a wealthy family and my parents loved him.
One night, I was out with a friend at a nightclub. I was 22 and this was the first time I had ever been to a "club". I had met "J" twice in the past and both times he had flirted. I of course had put him off saying-I'm engaged. I guess being in this type of environment, and I finally gave in. As soon as he kissed me I knew. I didn't know that I would be with him for the rest of my life, but I did know that the path my life was on wasn't the right one for me. I had just been ignoring the signals for so long! I ended up, after much drama, leaving my fiance to be with J. That was 23 years ago. I wouldn't change a single thing. We are seemingly opposites. I am careful, quiet, non-confrontational. He is everything I'm not. He takes care of me and I don't know what I would do without him. Life gives you clues, you just need to know when to take the chance and follow them. I'm so glad I took notice of those signals!